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  • James 09:01 on June 28, 2015 Permalink | Reply  

    'How to Spot a Pro-Social Psychopath' – the psychopath's response 

    If you know Tina Taylor’s work, you’re probably familiar with this image:
    Habits of Highly Psychopathic People Pic

    How to Spot a ProSocial Psychopath

    The full text that goes along with this flashy wolf-man poster can be viewed here (I hope).

    In an entirely predictable and possibly excruciating way, I would like to go over each point of the full list, one by one, to give my reaction (“hell yeah, that’s a thing”), explanation (“we do this because of these three brilliant excuses that are totally not made up”) or criticism (“this list is utter shite and it should be burned on a pyre”).

    So, without further ado, let the reactioning commence!

    1. Be sensitive to contradictions.Yeah, she started with a strong point did our Tina. Not only is it something every psychopath does, it’s something most people don’t notice. Seriously! Without pausing for breath or changing the tone of my voice, I can hop from saying one thing to just the opposite and I’ve only been called out on it a handful of times. It sounds ridiculous, because it makes people who fall for it seem idiotic, but I guarantee it’s been done to you numerous times and you never realised.

    2. Double-check their (tsunami of) stories. This one’s a zinger too. Many people are very chatty. Some people are so chatty that they’re always talking the most in any given conversation. And if you listen, just a bit, you realise most of what they’re saying is bullshit. Many of these people are psychopaths. But you can be a motormouth and a bullshitter without being a psychopath (someone in school fit this mould exactly, spouting on about how he’d been born on an aeroplane and how he was the heir to the throne of Scotland, to cover up the fact he was a pathetic little slug whom nobody liked). And you can also be a psychopath without being God’s gift to hogging all the oxygen. Me, for example. In social situations, I’m usually quiet. I observe, take stock. Then in one-to-one or small group situation I use what I learned to my advantage. I don’t create a load of histrionic hot air and I don’t like people who do.

    3. Pay attention to the quick lane changes in conversation. Hooey, I can’t keep up with all these metaphors. When you want to control somebody, or impress them, conversation is all about shock-and-awe, razzle-dazzle, sparkle-glarkle (I might have made that one up) and that can involve rapidly changing the subject. Again, this isn’t necessarily indication of a psychopath but could easily be somebody with ADHD or any manner of personality disorder.

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    Only two of these metal things are proper robots, but at least two of them are psychopaths. Fun fact.

    At this point, you may have noticed the numbering’s all over the shop. It looks absolutely fine in my special edit-only version, counting from 1 to 3 in a linear fashion, but for whatever reason in the finished article it’s all screwed up. I haven’t tried too hard to fix it, as I think it goes nicely with the general blogging incompetence I have exhibited thus far.

    4. Look for cold, “robotic” reactions to what should be emotionally troublesome events. Tidal waves, lack of lane discipline, now robots. What will it take for the metaphors to cease? Anyway, these so-called ‘robotic’ reactions arise from confusion. We don’t worry / care about the same things as you guys and it’s sometimes hard enough to understand why you behave the way you do, let alone work out what we’re supposed to be doing. Any expression of e.g. empathy comes not from within, but from what I’ve seen others do, from television and from literature. Even if the performance is a bit off, instead of focusing the negative, why not think positively? “Well they may be a crummy actor but at least they like me enough to pretend to care.” Think about it; when stricken with grief over the death of your mother or houseplant, wouldn’t you rather be faced with a clumsy attempt at empathy than a wall of ice?

    5. Track each time they bug you with questions about how you would act in certain (off the wall) situations: “What would you do if I…fill in the blank”. Alright, this is odd. I don’t recall ever having asked such a question, at least not with the obsessive regularity implied here. But if we accept that some psychopaths are like this, I can tell you why. You see, you and your inner worlds of emotion and insecurity are a fascinating mystery to us, to be admired just as often as scorned. When psychopaths ask these sorts of questions, or when you feel like their eyes are shooting lasers into your skull, it’s because they’re trying to get to know you. Not just superficially, but really understand you on a psychological level Anyway, why ask, when you can just take action and see what happens?

    6. Take note of their scapegoating; usually associated with assigning blame, psychopaths also expertly assign credit where little or none is due. Agreed. I take exception to one of the supplementary claims though, “It’s all lies regardless”. No, psychopaths often call it exactly as they see it. The challenge for you is to discern the lies from the truth. That is admittedly difficult and easily explains why so many don’t bother and just go with the “it’s all lies” option. But those who persevere can find that home truths from a psychopaths are usually very perceptive indeed and will help you to see yourself more clearly.

    7. Analyze their desire to move quickly into a close relationship; calling you endearing terms right away, insisting that you should freely bring them into your circle of trust, wanting you to share living quarters or share a business venture very soon after meeting. This. One thousand times this. So much this that I already posted about this the other week. I mean, I can’t blame you, we talk a good talk, and I like to say I have one of those faces to which people want to blurt out all their secrets, but still YOU’RE AN ADULT HUMAN WITH A BIG BRAIN AND FREE WILL! If you ignore everything you were told when you were 4 and trust a complete stranger with your money, your belongings or your life just because they have a nice smile and lots of candy in their van, you’re a sucker and you deserve everything that’s coming to you.

    8. Observe the “Poor Me, I’m the Victim” tone and words that they use to get your sympathy, which can fool you into being controlled/manipulated by them and giving them stuff (time, special favors, gifts…) Yeah. Let me ask you to put yourself in the shoes of another for a minute. If you had this amazing power to cry on cue, turn on the puppy dog eyes at a stroke, come up with any lie on the spot and mimic any emotion of your choosing, can you honestly say you wouldn’t use it to get free stuff?

    9. Notice a pattern of hot-cold-hot-cold-hot attraction and attention to you. This is all well and good, but if it’s got to this stage already, you’re probably too far gone. You are the puppet (and the muppet) so you might as well allow your strings to be pulled until you’re cut loose. God, now I’m doing metaphors. Clichéd ones too. Anyway it’s more of a “hot-cold-hot-warm-hot-cold-hot-hot-hot-icy-hot-cold-chill-hot-tepid-cold-cold-hot-cold-scalding” pattern.

    10. Be wary of their number of claims that “There was a misunderstanding”, because they know that phrase restores your trust, and eases their way past you catching them in a lie. 

    Running out of things to say and my interest in the article is ebbing away, so this meme sums it all up. Basically, the old “just a misunderstanding” schtick is just another bit of nonsense that you should be more than capable of seeing through by yourself.

    Phew, that’s over.

    Oh no, wait, it isn’t. There are some extra warnings for your apparent safety.

    • Never give your trust freely. Beware anyone who asks you to do so. Trust must be earned. Duhhhhhhhhhhhhh
    • The most overlooked sign of psychopathy is “Eerily calm demeanor”. Is it indeed? How does this gel with the overexcited storyteller painted a few lines up?
    • Do not confront a psychopath about your discovery of their psychopathy. That would be like backing a wild animal into a corner. That’s right. Know your place, empath fool; we’re super scary, and shit. Rawr.
    • Be careful of confiding in their “nice” family members, since psychopathy is genetic. In other words, we’re everywhere! Bwahahahaha!

    If you kept with me ’til the end, thanks for reading. You deserve a nice pat on the back. Unfortunately, you’re thousands of miles away, so the best I can offer is this picture of one dog patting another dog. Heartwarming, eh?

    Well Done, Boy !! - beautiful, lovely, snow, white, paw on head, well done, photo, dog

    Notice the backdrop, which must be pleasantly seasonal if you live in the arse end of the southern hemisphere, as I imagine you do.

    Want to take this relationship to the next level? Leave a comment below, and see where it gets us 🙂
     
    • Human 11:38 on June 28, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Brilliant! Immensely educational and superbly entertaining.

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      • James 11:42 on June 28, 2015 Permalink | Reply

        Thank you, Human, that’s very kind.

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    • Anonymous 09:44 on January 9, 2016 Permalink | Reply

      Hmm well written in parts

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      • James 10:49 on January 9, 2016 Permalink | Reply

        And badly written in others, right? 🙂

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    • Ideas 12:33 on January 9, 2016 Permalink | Reply

      Nice! I stumbled upon this just now. I like it man. I mean, I’m supposed to hate you and all hah, but I don’t. (Bad break up.. totally taken for a fool.. so I’m still fucking bitter and damaged dammit!!) In the same way our empathy intrigue/annoys you.. I feel the same of -paths. Which brings me to a question, but first, you specifically, I think what I like, from ‘you’ in this article, is that you’re not delusional. I think the worst -paths are those who can’t see themselves ‘well’, destruct, somehow settle out, and repeat.. poor bastards and your patterns.. but you have grasp. Commendable. Back to my question.. If I were a cold blooded, calculated, always switched-on, robot in a humans shell.. I’d be ultra successful. So how is there any excuse not to? It’s “fun to win” and get it going this looong drawn out process of taking someone elses? But then not only do you look pathetic, you are pathetic, literally. A parasitic organism. Not ‘better than human’. That contradicts your ability. I’m not saying be a philanthropist, but for fuck sake make your own car payments lol. Low functioning vs. High functioning, whatever you want to call it.. Maybe In just a socio/psychopath elitist.. you should be something … or else you’re just wasting it!!!

      I want to enjoy my -pathic ex. But she’s too weak to be confronted and not freak out(been 4 months, 0 contact, 0 meeting, just poof, gone. But i know where she is obviously lol). I could be her ally.. we could do some pretty sweet stunts 😉 .. can we not all see the resource -paths are???! I’d pay for that service.. like they’d honor it 😄

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      • James 17:24 on January 9, 2016 Permalink | Reply

        I’m not your ex, so no need to hate me, man 🙂

        I really enjoyed reading your comment. I agree, that we could be a lot more useful than people think, and certainly more useful than most of us are! I’m just a humble student, so I’ve got a long way to go before making any major ripples, but rest assured my sights are set higher than human leech. Trouble is, I’m proud of being a parasite on (currently) my parents, and on other people before that, though I have also taken pride in earning my own wages as well. Basically, I’m just proud (or full of myself, I guess!!!)

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    • HB 12:56 on January 9, 2016 Permalink | Reply

      What makes them act this way? Abuse in childhood? ??

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      • @GeneticPsycho (Tina) 01:27 on January 10, 2016 Permalink | Reply

        Brain defect. Psychopathy is a lack of conscience – a neurological impairment of the amygdala, orbital frontal cortex, all of cingulate cortex, parahippocampal area, and insula.

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        • James 05:41 on January 10, 2016 Permalink | Reply

          (This is one theory among several, and not necessarily the correct one, but to me it seems the most likely)

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          • @GeneticPsycho (Tina) 06:20 on January 10, 2016 Permalink | Reply

            It’s not a mystery, it’s a fact proven in 2005. For 11 years, the neuroscience community has known, yet the psychiatric community does not make the data well-known to the public. My take is that the APA creates that mystery because it’s corrupt, and hiding the psychopaths in control of that organization and others. And we all know that what the Americans want, we get, so that worldwide ignorance is enforced.

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            • James 07:58 on January 10, 2016 Permalink | Reply

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            • Zachary 07:30 on May 27, 2017 Permalink | Reply

              I’m sorry but that’s possibly the dumbest thing that I’ve ever heard. All we see is reduced brain activity in particular parts of the brain that are thought to be responsible for emotion/empathy. Of course, we only know what parts are responsible for what actions because we observed the brain activity there. Remember that correlation is not indicative of causation. Barely anything is psychology is “proven.”
              Don’t even get me started on your conspiracy theories. Don’t blame some large association like the APA for your blunt mental acuity.
              Next you’re going to tell me that Black Lives Matter is a legitimate peace movement.

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              • GeneticPsychosMom (Tina) 09:00 on May 27, 2017 Permalink | Reply

                Read again – it says “my take” – this means my opinion on the APA. It may be a conspiracy theory, which may make me alone in this opinion of the psychiatric community. Your opinion may differ. So what. You get no argument from me because neither of us is going to take the time to interview any of the heads of the APA to discover the truth.

                I focus on the NEUROLOGICAL research on psychopathy – not the field of psychology. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/?term=psychopathy+brain

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    • hippygurl61 09:43 on January 10, 2016 Permalink | Reply

      Reblogged this on hippygurl61's Blog.

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    • Webster Reid 19:00 on April 15, 2016 Permalink | Reply

      I don’t think you’re a psychopath, I reckon you’re a narcissist with relatively shallow affect and a tendency to externalise fantasy. Actually, maybe that’s what a psychopath is. I always felt classing them as some sort of separate breed lurking amongst us, conspiring against us appeals to drama but might not necessarily be the most pragmatic way of analysing what appears to be a cluster of mental health problems. Not to mention the obvious overlap with autistic spectrum disorders. I feel the film ” American Asperger’s” wouldn’t sell as many tickets though. Fairly good article though. But would a clever psychopath react to an accusation of psychopathy with rage? Remember most aren’t as self-aware as you.

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      • @GeneticPsycho (Tina) 19:46 on April 15, 2016 Permalink | Reply

        It’s really hard to tell if someone is a psychopath. Especially since they are usually calmer than most folks, and the rest of us tend to admire that. The best way to tell is when they start trolling and acting childish.

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      • James 15:28 on April 25, 2016 Permalink | Reply

        Your theory is as good as any I’ve heard. The truth is, I don’t know whether I am a psychopath or not. All I know is I have a certain set of personality traits, some of which are psychopathic, others of which are symptoms of other mental disorders (most prominently depression and, certainly, narcissism) and some of which are just my unique traits as a person.

        “Fairly good article though.” Thank you. That was a fairly good comment 🙂

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    • Ludiel 16:56 on July 1, 2016 Permalink | Reply

      I’ve been making some introspective study latetly that’s why I got into this article. All these point describes perfectly my attitudes. I don’t consider myself a bad person but I do this things without thinking is just something natural to me

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    • Haley 10:18 on December 17, 2016 Permalink | Reply

      How to stop one?

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      • @GeneticPsycho (Tina) 10:54 on December 17, 2016 Permalink | Reply

        Psychopathy is a neurological disorder. Science has not yet found a way to repair brain disorders. They only defense we have is to spot them among us so they don’t get a chance to pull their scams. Education of the masses.

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    • Zachary 07:38 on May 27, 2017 Permalink | Reply

      You and I seem a lot alike, James. Ever your style of writing is eerily similar to my own. I was diagnosed with antisocial personality disorder a few years back. This was around after i grew out of killing cats.
      I must say that you’ve very aptly described people with our condition and I find it quite admirable that you’re so open about it. I don’t get to meet many people like us (at least in situations where both of us are open about it). As it turns out, me learning about what I was helped me immensely. Understanding the reason why the emptiness we feel truly makes it feel less bottomless. The boredom, the frustration, and even the numbness are being redirected into something productive.
      Instead of doing something stupid like murdering someone, I’ve enlisted in the army instead.

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      • James 12:07 on May 30, 2017 Permalink | Reply

        You can murder lots of people in the army too, but they give you medals and shit rather than a prison sentence; win win. Have fun.

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    • Ni 11:28 on June 18, 2017 Permalink | Reply

      Ok, so the metal things, the psychopaths are the Dalek and Bender? But if Bender is a robot then can it also be a psychopath?
      Quite a few of your responses to Tina’s list are amusing as well as interesting, thank you.

      The list, well it seems a bit general, not necessarily applying to just sociopaths or just psychopaths.
      The list if all bits are required to be included together, well maybe this could describe a not very astute sociopath?

      I’m amused at the use of the dog photo for the pat on the head for us readers. Dog on left is demonstrating “The Paw Of Dominance” over dog on the right, right? You knew this and chose this on purpose methinks – bahahahaha, funny!

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      • James 13:34 on June 18, 2017 Permalink | Reply

        Hi, Ni, and welcome. Great comment!

        Bender and the Dalek are indeed the definite psychopaths (the other possibilities is the stormtrooper – but we can’t tell just by looking at him – and WALL-E; he’s obviously up to something, but what?). Perhaps neither Bender nor the Dalek can meet a strict criteria for being a psychopath, since neither are human beings and psychopathy is described variously as a personality disorder or as a symptom of brain damage. However, I’m a behaviourist at heart, so I defer to their actions and attitudes which are clearly psychopathic by human standards.

        The list is certainly too general for my tastes, though to defend Tina, it is simply a guide advising monkeys how to spot possible psychopaths in their midsts, rather than a formal list of diagnostic criteria.

        Would I use a sickeningly cute photo of dog to subtly mock the power dynamic that exists between myself and my readers?

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    • Billy 10:37 on June 22, 2017 Permalink | Reply

      I’m scared of discovering that I’m a psychopath

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      • James 16:15 on June 22, 2017 Permalink | Reply

        That’s one of the hallmark signs of being a psychopath.

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  • James 08:22 on June 20, 2015 Permalink | Reply
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    Infiltration by Psychopath 

    How does a psychopath ingratiate himself into your life? Read on to find out…

    Psychopath and Victim pic

    This is not what my life looks like right now, but it might resemble yours if you’ve let a psychopath in. Nice legs, don’t you think?

    It’s been a while since I wrote anything for this blog, so let me fill you in on a couple of things that have happened since my last contribution. Due to my work contract coming to an end, I am now unemployed and economically inactive until I resume my university studies in September. With a much reduced income, I had no choice but to vacate my city centre apartment and find alternative digs.

    Perhaps surprisingly for anyone who thinks psychopaths live only for the present and act entirely on impulse (this is not an entirely untrue picture, just an incomplete one), I had been well aware of when I would be jobless and had planned ahead accordingly. You see, I’ve been making friends and sussing out opportunities all year. Failing that, I had the telephone number of the local hippie commune which could have proved a rich hunting ground. But I have academic work to do, I needed somewhere quiet and stable to get on with it.

    Enter Elise.

    Elise is a primary school teacher. She works in the CLIS department (CLasse pour l’Inclusion Scolaire) – students with special needs, in effect. And she has a young daughter, Ludivine, whom she loves very much. In other words, she’s a kind-hearted pro-social woman who is used to putting others before herself. She is also lonely; her husband of ten years recently left her and her 4 year-old daughter, and in the past two years she has lost a mother and two grandparents to death’s clammy grip. On top of that she has an interest in languages and other cultures. Can you see where this going?

    I now live in Elise’s brand new house in a quiet suburb entirely rent free, in exchange for a couple of hours of childcare a week for her daughter and a willingness to speak English – and otherwise fill a void – around the house.

    If it sounds like I’m boasting that’s because I am, a little. But this also gives you an insight of how easy it is to let a stranger – a psychopath no less – into your life, into your home, with access to your child.* I don’t think Elise really stopped to consider the speed at which I became involved with her. If there’s any lesson I am imparting to you is think things through.

    Having said that, I have been thus far no trouble at all to Elise. I have cooked meals, helped around the house (admittedly not as much as I promised to but she doesn’t seem to mind), taught Ludivine to count to ten, have English conversations whenever asked to and have kept to the all-important childcare. Being the caring, perceptive, understanding friend that I am, I have learned several of Elise’s secrets, her inner psychological worries and the like, and they are handy for manipulation purposes but if all goes to plan I won’t get around to seriously using them. Remember, this is my quiet place to get on with work – no time for drama. When I’m done, I’ll leave, and the family will be in a better, not worse, situation than when I arrived.

    I guess there are two takeaway messages from this. One is what we have already touched on. Think critically. Ask yourself who you are sharing your life with and why. E.g. don’t just assume a charming foreign student is everything he seems to be and give him the keys to your house and a position of responsibility over your child. I’ve always liked the custom associated to the vampire myth that you have to implicitly invite the vampire in before he can access your home, and the same is true of psychopaths. You’re responsible for who you make part of your life.

    But on a more positive note, my other message of the day. Just because someone is a psychopath it is not inevitable that death, destruction and heartbreak will follow. The fact is I am temporarily living the perfect suburban life; I have been domesticated. I even let the cat sleep on my bed.

    ‘Course, if it all goes tits up, there’s always the ultimate fall back…

    No disrespecting the parents

    *I say that like it’s a threat, and with someone else with different intentions it could be, but not me. I am competent and easy-going as a babysitter. I am not a disciplinarian but neither am I a pushover. Example, today Ludivine said “we’re going to stop at the park on the way home” to which I responded “Oh? Was that a question or a demand?” which elicited an apology and an admirably glib reformulation of her sentence into a polite request. I find the child vaguely boring, occasionally I have fun with her, but most of the time I’m stifling a yawn and pretending to be delighted with whatever tedious crap she’s doing. 

    All names have been changed, because that’s what professional journalists do in articles like this. 

     
  • GeneticPsychosMom (Tina) 11:03 on June 19, 2015 Permalink | Reply
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    Psychopaths are Parasites; Feeding on Your Yummy Goodness 

    Psychopaths choose victims because that person has something of value. Psychopaths are driven by their desire to make things as easy as possible for themselves, regardless of the resulting ruination of others. The easiest mode of survival is to take a ride on the back of someone who is their antithesis. The opposite of psychopathy is selflessness. The most magnanimous souls are the ones who have suffered pain and grief; so do everything in their power to keep others from agony.

    James suggested that my previous “relationships” with predators was because I had “weak and damaged” written all over me. In his blog post, “Are you my next target?“, James queried, ” More importantly, what weaknesses do you have that a psychopath could potentially exploit?”

    Since I want to keep others from being in pain, that does not make me weak, it makes me strong. I had survived neglect and physical abuse in childhood, so that left scars that supposedly a psychopath can sniff out as weakness.  NOT SO. What the psychopath is sniffing out is my high tolerance for other humans and my acceptance of the many flaws that come with humanity. The lumps that I carried into adulthood provide me with a perspective and a strength, so that I would never do unto others the same harm that was done to me.

    This means that the psychopaths are the weak ones, because they need to prey on people who love easy, and are full of sweetness and tolerance and goodness. We were victims because we give the benefit of the doubt. These are valuable qualities to be sustained in the human animal.

    Being complaisant is not something to be ashamed of, nor something to be changed because it might be exploited by psychopaths. What needs changing is increasing our awareness of the parasitic worms who would latch on to our succulence, and then distort reality, tricking us into thinking that our delicious essence should be snuffed out to their own low level.

    What this boils down to is that psychopaths are not looking for weak people. Instead, they are looking for people who can carry their shifty weight. So, do not heed the barbaric precepts of psychopathic philosophy: Psychopaths unjustifiably despise self-sacrificing people, the very best people on earth.

    The question that needs asking is not “what weakness do you have?”  The question we need to ask is, “Do you know how to identify the psychopaths?”

     

    Psychopath TEST Politicians

     
    • bettykrachey 15:13 on June 19, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Reblogged this on Falsely Accused.

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    • James 16:37 on June 19, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Good response, Tina. You’re very right that not all ‘weaknesses’ are something to be ashamed of. Being selfless, caring etc is not an inherently bad thing, but they are things which can be exploited if you allow them. Hence they are weaknesses in the eyes of a predator. I had intended to make that clear at the time, with the wolf analogy, but looking back it doesn’t read like that at all. Oopsie.

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