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  • James 07:26 on May 22, 2015 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , advice, , born victims, , empowerment, equality and diversity, , , gloating, homework due in next Thursday, , , losers, , , nursery rhymes, , prey, , , ,   

    Are you my next target? 

    Recommended reading: the previous post, a discussion between Tina and I about the successful psychopath.

    Are you lonely, popular, caring, confident, laid back, anxious, adventurous, bored, traumatised, naïve, competitive, depressed, sentimental, accepting, argumentative, compassionate, impulsive or shy?

    If so, then boy have I got just the trick for you! Get your very own custom-made psychopath experience, with guaranteed success rate, for one of us at least. Order now, and get free emotional trauma to take with you when we’re done. While stocks last.

    “…catch a sucker by its toe. If it squeals, hold on tight; I ain’t letting this bitch go.

    If there is one question all victims of psychopaths have asked themselves at some point in the period after their psychopath has moved on, it has to be “why me?” Or more specifically; “what was it that made me a target?” Such a question has little value after the fact, you were a victim and that is that (just get on with your life already… looking at you, Ms. Moscovici), but refocus it slightly on those of you who haven’t been blessed with a psychopath’s attention yet and we’ve got the infinitely more useful question: “How can I avoid being targeted in the first place?”

    Well, the simple version of the answer is you can’t. As noted here, the list of exploitable traits is seemingly endless to the extent most people will identify with one or the other. Psychopaths are adaptable “jacks of all trades” when it comes to finding potential victims. Personally, I pride myself on being an equal opportunities victimiser; I don’t really understand traditional prejudices like racism and sexism which focus on arbitrary traits that have no bearing on how valuable a person is. Black, white, rich, poor, old, young, male, female, American, French or Sudanese, you’re all fair game. And I frequently pick (and drop, it has to be said) targets on a whim, so it’s really quite random and out of your control.

    I could just finish there, with a “Hahahaha! You’re all doomed, fuckers!”, but that wouldn’t be very nice of me, would it? Instead, I’m going to remind you that the above is only the simple version of the answer. Yes it is true, I am omnivorous, but everyone has their favourite foods and nobody likes to work too much to get them. Think of those nature documentaries with David Attenborough, what was it he said about the sort of prey predators tend to single out? The wolves don’t tend to take on those really big bison with massive horns and muscular bodies now do they? Sure, they give a whirl now and again, when they’re feeling especially self-assured, but they tend to stick to the weaker animals. So while it is true that somebody’s confidence or competitive spirit can be used against them, it is much easier to pick on unconfident, damaged people (those who are weak).

    I can detect weakness just by looking at someone. I can’t explain it as anything other than instinct; you could say I can just sniff it out. In particular, sadness, low self-esteem and nervousness are all instantly identifiable from body language, posture, expression and general aura. Otherwise, I can get a good idea by talking to a person just what their weaknesses might be. I know when someone is lying to my face, I know when someone has a mental illness (yes, really) and I can read most people’s emotions without trying.

    Now I’m going to leave you, not with a “hahaha” but with a homework assignment. Think about yourself. What are your strengths and how can you play to them? More importantly, what weaknesses do you have that a psychopath could potentially exploit? You may not be able to rid yourself of weakness, but by being mindful of your own shortcomings, you are already one step ahead of any psychopath who might come a-knocking. And if somebody new to your life takes a particular interest in one of your known weaknesses, your suspicions will already be raised, won’t they?

    Now I’d like to challenge you to take a step further: leave a comment briefly outlining your weak spot. By owning up publicly, you accept it as a part of you.

    Many thanks to the commenter called beautifulyule, who inspired this post.

    And click here to read about successful psychopaths.

    • @GeneticPsycho (Tina) 07:33 on May 22, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      I question why you have called out Ms. Moscovici for “moving on” when she hasn’t written about psychopaths since 2012.


      • James 08:14 on May 22, 2015 Permalink | Reply

        The answer to that is very simple, I wasn’t aware that she hadn’t. Good for her! One of my weaknesses is I sometimes jump to conclusions too readily without thinking things through.

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    • @GeneticPsycho (Tina) 07:38 on May 22, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      I have a weakness for big muscles and a wicked sense of humor. That’s how they all got me. You just gave me an idea for a blog post, thanks.

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    • Gale A. Molinari 09:12 on May 22, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Reblogged this on galesmind and commented:

      Protect yourself.

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    • Erica Herd 12:01 on May 22, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      I like 3-toed sloths.

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    • Human 14:21 on May 22, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Excellent! Had to reblog this one at PsychopathResistance.com.

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      • James 15:04 on May 22, 2015 Permalink | Reply

        Thank you, puny human.


        • Human 17:41 on May 22, 2015 Permalink | Reply

          I am offended. It is puny Human with a capital H.

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          • James 17:46 on May 22, 2015 Permalink | Reply

            You know, I thought of putting a capital H and decided it’d be too weird. Haha 😀


    • luverley 16:17 on May 22, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      My weakness is letting my multiples fuck me around. I’m in no need of any more psychos but it’s interesting to see the opinion of the other side.


      • James 16:26 on May 22, 2015 Permalink | Reply

        You’re doing it wrong! You don’t just let someone fuck you around, there’s always a reason behind it.

        You don’t have to tell the world your true weakness, just think about it a bit more, and you might actually stop it from happening again.

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        • luverley 16:26 on May 22, 2015 Permalink | Reply

          Haha my multiples in my head. Caused by successful psychopaths lol


          • luverley 16:27 on May 22, 2015 Permalink | Reply

            Hey and you asked for truth, I was just being honest I thought it was good

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            • James 16:29 on May 22, 2015 Permalink | Reply

              Yes, it’s a great start, But you have to dig further into yourself. Like I said, you’re not obliged to share what you find with us all but it would benefit you to know why you let yourself get fucked with.

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              • luverley 16:32 on May 22, 2015 Permalink | Reply

                I know I’m not obliged but I ain’t got anywhere else to do it and I thought you would get a kick and maybe try manipulate my weakness. But you didn’t. There are many selves that’s what’s so hard. And parts of me relate to being a psychopath so it’s interesting to read.


          • James 16:35 on May 22, 2015 Permalink | Reply

            You mean you’ve got MPD?


            • luverley 16:46 on May 22, 2015 Permalink | Reply

              Yes lol


            • luverley 16:49 on May 22, 2015 Permalink | Reply

              It’s DID now days, but yes I do have real life multiples too. They’re 2.5 and they’re a handful which causes weakness of Givin in when you know you shouldn’t.

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              • James 16:52 on May 22, 2015 Permalink | Reply

                That’s fascinating! Do you know your multiples personally or do they keep themselves hidden from you?

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                • James 16:54 on May 22, 2015 Permalink | Reply

                  Lol, I was so slow on the uptake!


                • luverley 16:54 on May 22, 2015 Permalink | Reply

                  I know a couple like Co concious and the others are blanked. It’s a bitch cos I dint remember 2 days ago let alone 20 days months or years.


                  • James 16:56 on May 22, 2015 Permalink | Reply

                    God! How do you live like that?

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                  • James 16:57 on May 22, 2015 Permalink | Reply

                    Would you mind telling me about the others you know about?


                    • luverley 16:59 on May 22, 2015 Permalink | Reply

                      If you ain’t guna try manipulate or trigger them out at a later date. There are people out there who deliberately try targeting did people and do that to people like us. now what are they. Psychos?


                      • James 17:01 on May 22, 2015 Permalink

                        They probably, yes. Not me, I’m just interested.

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                      • luverley 17:04 on May 22, 2015 Permalink

                        That’s OK. Nobody else is they like to deny them. I have 13 I know about. But not all do I know of.if you know what I mean. They were revealed to one who wrote the list but there’s more I know it. Some know of each other but the others deny each other. Ugh it’s hard to explain.

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                      • James 17:06 on May 22, 2015 Permalink

                        I can imagine it is. Luckily, I don’t mind being confused 🙂 Forgive me for asking, but how do you know you’re the original?


                      • luverley 17:30 on May 22, 2015 Permalink

                        I don’t


                      • luverley 17:35 on May 22, 2015 Permalink

                        I’m not feeling too distanced from my mind and body right now but I know this morning and a lot lately I have been brooke who is 7. She really really wants to talk to t about the trauma but I read up how to be a good DID therapist and it says there is one who tends to get out and destabilize the lot which is what she does best so I don’t think we’ll be going to t for a bit. The host needs a good support network which she doesn’t so we need to work on that first

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                      • James 17:46 on May 22, 2015 Permalink

                        Maybe you shouldn’t take shit from a 7 year old. There has to be a responsible adult among you who can sort her out.


                      • luverley 17:54 on May 22, 2015 Permalink

                        I suppose but it’s not her fault, she had the most trauma and wants to spew it forth but has always been stopped by the persecutors. Anyway I’ll hold her back. I have a criminal justice and human service essay we have to do so I need boss to come out and take over. Hope I ain’t committing plaguerism


                      • James 18:10 on May 22, 2015 Permalink

                        Alright, get on with your essay. If boss gets a minute, it would be interesting to speak to her or him.


                      • luverley 18:17 on May 22, 2015 Permalink

                        Her. Yeah I’m not so much in control as I would like. I don’t even think there is a host anymore. And its funny when bitch is in cos she doesn’t like us so she doesn’t think we have DID you might get her lol. She’s the reason I was reading on psychos cos she is one


                      • James 18:25 on May 22, 2015 Permalink

                        Well if you ever want some advice on how to deal with bitch, you know where to come, love.

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                      • luverley 05:33 on May 23, 2015 Permalink

                        Haha thanks. I will definitely be reading more of your posts thanks for sharing

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                      • James 17:01 on May 22, 2015 Permalink

                        They probably are, I should say.


    • luverley 16:26 on May 22, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Love the debate link too. Totally great arguments from both. I loved the paragraph where you started on how you would like to quote all the expletives that are ruining through your head but won’t because it’s unacceptable. And success definitely has a different meaning to everybody!

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    • Amaterasu Solar 19:40 on May 22, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      I am unsure of My weaknesses. I used to be very trusting, but to be sure, THAT’s gone. LOL! Maybe a chocolate souffle counts. LOL!

      Seriously, I appreciate Your getting Me to contemplate this. If I come up with something (and there must be something, I imagine), I’ll get back.

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    • mstmha 20:28 on May 23, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Reblogged this on mstmha and commented:


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      • James 09:08 on May 24, 2015 Permalink | Reply

        Yeah, I generally have that effect on people…


    • Rules 21:19 on May 23, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      My weakness is that I am too emotional

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    • prayerwarriorpsychicnot 00:02 on May 24, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Reblogged this on Citizens, not serfs.

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      • James 09:03 on May 24, 2015 Permalink | Reply

        Thanks, man. (Also, I believe the term is “subjects”)

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        • conartistocracy 10:46 on May 24, 2015 Permalink | Reply

          Pleasure to reblog. Every word is true, and I and everyone close to me have the scars to prove it, as it is clear you do as well.
          Good point about “subjects”. I take it you are a free citizen (so far) of the USA? So subject fits more in your usage. My idea was to get at we are being returned to feudalism. But within your usage, yes we are ” subjects” not free citizens.
          Good discussion on your article. 🙂


          • James 11:56 on May 24, 2015 Permalink | Reply

            No, I’m a British citizen like you. Not currently living in the UK, but still got my passport should I ever return!

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    • conartistocracy 15:12 on May 24, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      I stand corrected. Just I had noticed on American sites the usage of the term “subject” which I’ve never seen a Brit using.


    • nowve666 23:23 on October 19, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      I love psychopaths and I’m a masochist.


      • James 20:35 on October 21, 2015 Permalink | Reply

        What are you banging on about Fran?


        • nowve666 21:34 on October 21, 2015 Permalink | Reply

          I am simply replying to the question. What “weaknessdo we have that could make us prey? This is a true answer. My first love was a psychopath and a sadist. It was simply a matter of the best coming to the best. 😉 I was also being a bit sassy just for fun.

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    • Amelia SleepAllDay 23:45 on March 20, 2016 Permalink | Reply

      my weakness is my low self-esteem….and because of that, I lack confidence. Since primary school I’ve bullied because I need to stop sayinggggg bulllllshittttt….XDDD Nah my real weakness is way more destructive. I lie and manipulate people into thinking I’m something I’m not to get to react a certain way which will, of course, be in my favor. Act weak, act sad, act in need of help, act seductive, act daring, act anything that can be acted to gain people’s pity, empathy, help, interest etc… That’s a form of exploitation in itself even if it’s their fault for falling in the strap and I shouldn’t be doing that but I can’t help it. I enjoy seeing how people react to different situations or circumstances but I waste my time on people I shouldn’t even care about. But mostly that is not true at all, not one bit is true. My real real realll weakness is second-hand embarassment. That’s when you get embarrassed for what someone else has done. This may sound ridicule to you but if being over empathic is a disease, then I’m on the last stage! When someone make a fool of himself I don’t care, but when they make certain specific things, I don’t know, something dies inside of me. If you have read up until here, which would surprise me enormously, you will know that what I stated above as my weakness are nothing but a bunch of amateur lies. Isn’t telling people your weakness a weakness in itself? The magician NEVER discloses his tricks because if he did, it would be no longer be a show, would it? People can use his trick against him like they can use your weaknesses against you. I can admit only 2 things since they won’t harm me in any way and they can’t be used against me.

      First: I have a place reserved in Hell because laziness is a sin
      Second: I’m bad at lying so maybe everything I said on here is true, maybe it’s all fake, maybe some parts of it somewhat reflect reality, can you tell the difference?


      • James 16:24 on March 24, 2016 Permalink | Reply

        I could tell that much of that comment was made of lies, because of inconsistencies and from your tone. However, I can’t tell which was the lie and which was the truth, nor do I care. I think you’re channelling your inner psychopath though.


    • Anonymous 16:59 on July 5, 2016 Permalink | Reply

      My weaknesses.

      When I was a kid I was excluded by others and bullied so I’ve this hunger for real friendships so I feel lonely. However I’m ver very suspicious about hypocrisy so I’m going to instantly suspect if you are a perfect friend. I’ve met hypocrite people before that tried to use… that might have been psychopaths now that I think about it hence my eternal suspiciousness.

      Yes I’ve self esteem issues as a secondary weakness. But again I’ll get instantly suspicious about people people over complimenting me specially when I know I don’t deserve them.

      What do you think? How would that make me vulnerable/ would a psychopath approach me?


      • James 20:22 on July 5, 2016 Permalink | Reply

        The right person can always take advantage of anyone (I’m not saying that person is me). Charm isn’t just about endless compliments, because although that works for some people, most are tuned in to recognise overt flattery when they encounter it. Your suspiciousness can be your greatest asset as you’ll never be taken for a sucker, but people like me can sense suspicion and ‘hidden’ feelings like loneliness, and some of us may want to penetrate your defences for the fun of it and for the challenge of breaking down your emotional walls.


        • anonymous 20:33 on July 5, 2016 Permalink | Reply

          Thank you. Though probably you don’t care about me being grateful…


          • James 20:40 on July 5, 2016 Permalink | Reply

            No, it’s always a pleasure to help. Genuinely.


    • anonymous 18:56 on July 5, 2016 Permalink | Reply

      test to see if my post dissaperead.


    • kailadvesele 08:18 on December 30, 2016 Permalink | Reply

      I’m borderline and I’m very curious about everything. I’m empathic and I’m not judging, but I’m very impulsive and emocional. If somone try to play mindfuck games with me, I let do it them, because it’s interesting. I really like to spend time with smart people. Maybe I’m naive, but it’s hard to trust someone. For example, if someone are nice to me, i would try understand – why? What is reason? And it would make me very suspicious. I used to lied, but i think I do it very horrible (too much details tell, sometimes i am too much angry when somone dont trust me, sometimes I’m feeling stresfull.
      And I’m paranoid. people ar dangerous, they could kill me.i cant speak about my experience, because he would be angry. He knew everything about my personality. But i understand it’s because my body language, way of speaking and my eyes. I think he just been bored, because he didnt use me any way. Maybe i was his material for fun.
      Any way, i asked him much questions. If I asked good Q, he just smiled special way, but i didn’t get answers to my questions. One year later i found out, that he ir a leader in one cult. But he warned me, that i dont need to try find information, it would be dangerous for me.
      Maybe I have stocholm sindrom.
      It’s very easy to manipulate with me. And it’s stupid thing for me to write this comment. Because it tells/shows so much about me.
      But it wont be long from this moment a part from me, becaude i dont want to be weak.

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    • Kim Kabar 18:01 on June 25, 2017 Permalink | Reply

      Attachment to desire for love. The more one is attached, the more vulnerable he or she is to sociopath or psychopaths ploys.

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    • nowve666 19:22 on June 25, 2017 Permalink | Reply

      My question is why avoid psychopaths? You are lucky to be of interest to one. Robert Hare said the experience could be “thrilling or devastating.” Why not live dangerously? You got something better to do?


  • GeneticPsychosMom (Tina) 10:55 on April 20, 2015 Permalink | Reply
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    Understand Your Hot Buttons and Weak Spots [Snakes in Suits] 

    We all have hot buttons and weak spots. Hot buttons are those things that provoke an automatic—often emotional—reaction from you, get you excited, or set you off. For example, you may react with envy and depression when your colleague gets promoted, and with sudden frustration or anger when someone cuts you off in traffic, gets credit for your work, or is critical of the way you dress. You may react with pleasure when complimented on your looks, with anticipation and joy when your candidate is ahead in the polls or when a player on your team hits a home run. Hobbies are often hot-button topics and tend to provoke positive reactions out of most people. Likewise, passion for one’s work can provoke intense energy and excitement, especially when someone takes an interest in what you do for a living.

    When someone presses one of our hot buttons, our attention may be diverted from more important things in our social environment, and our evaluation of a person or situation may be colored by the feelings and reactions triggered by the hot button. This reflex-like tendency—to let hot buttons get the better of us—is not lost on the psychopath or any manipulative person. They will identify your hot buttons and will push them to test their utility. They will use this information to establish in you a mood that is conducive to their current interests and schemes.

    It is difficult, except in the most blatant situations, to tell whether someone has purposely pushed your hot button or has inadvertently done so without any particular intent to manipulate or use you. In fact, many legitimate friendships are started when someone has pushed a hot button in an effort to genuinely befriend you. A psychopath’s attempt to use your hot buttons against you— for example, to make you lose control in front of someone of importance—will quickly be labeled a mistake by him or her, if challenged. You may even receive a public apology. However, if the psychopath’s motive is to embarrass or humiliate you in front of others, then the damage is already done to your reputation, as described in chapter 11.

    Often, the psychopath will press your buttons privately, convincing you that he or she understands and shares similar feelings—a ploy to build rapport. For example, you may complain about being irritated or hurt by some inconvenience, slight, or perceived insult by another employee. The psychopath need only say, “Oh, my God. She didn’t!” and you will begin to feel that the psychopath understands and possibly even shares your feelings about the offending event or person. The astute psychopath will then listen to you spill your guts about things, events, and people, thereby ingratiating himself with you and providing information that can potentially be used to manipulate you later on in the relationship.

    Learning all you can about your hot buttons is a first defense against having them pushed unscrupulously. Unfortunately, it is far easier to become aware of one’s hot buttons than to learn to control them. Feedback from others, including family members, close friends, or professional colleagues (through 360-degree assessments), is the best source of information about your hot buttons, especially those of which you are not aware. Practice, with the assistance of a trusted friend or professional coach, can help you learn to control or at least moderate your reactions. Eventually, you will improve in your ability to quickly recognize a hot-button reaction as it starts, allowing you time to put on the brakes and to regain control of your reactions.

    Like all predators, psychopaths are attuned to the weak spots of those with whom they interact. There are many types of human weakness, and the astute psychopath knows most of them. For simplicity, we will focus on three common categories: flaws, lacks, and fears.

    What is wrong with you—too heavy, too thin, or too shy? We often see flaws in ourselves that others do not see. Some are real, but many of these exist only in our imaginations. Psychopaths are adept at identifying those things that you like least about yourself, and at using them as currency in their dealings with you.

    The psychopath will try to convince you that he or she accepts you as you are, despite any flaws you think you have. This is a very powerful and reassuring message for someone to hear and is the foundation for the psychopathic bond. Eventually, the psychopath may reveal that he or she shares the same flaws with you, deepening your sense of connectedness and anticipation that a strong personal relationship can be built.

    Having a realistic picture of your flaws is important for your defense against psychopathic manipulation. This usually involves paring down the list in your mind to those that really matter, and then challenging those that remain on your list. You may decide to improve some and accept others. Once you make these assessments and decisions about your flaws, it becomes more difficult for others to manipulate you through them.

    What is missing in your life—self-esteem, love, understanding, excitement, or enough chocolate? Believing we have less than we should of something influences our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. We sometimes resent those who have more than we do. We begin to doubt our own abilities to provide and achieve. We may decide we are failures. We feel the need to fill the void, sometimes at any cost.

    Craving the things we lack leads to a vulnerable state, psychologically, emotionally, and sometimes physically. In this state, people are consumed with thoughts and dreams of fulfilling their desires, making them easy targets for psychopaths who are all too ready to help. For example, promising to give you what you crave—but with no intention of delivering—is a common technique used in pyramid scams and street games, such as three-card monte. In these economic schemes, often perpetrated by manipulative psychopaths, you are led to believe that you can make a lot of money, but you usually lose everything before realizing you have been taken. In another example, a psychopathic puppetmaster may entice you to join him in a criminal act to help him pay a debt or to get even with someone. The crime may involve stealing money, supplies, or trade secrets from your company; damaging property belonging to others; or even hurting your own family members. This is especially appealing if the psychopath convinces you that you will never get caught and that the victims will only get what they deserve. Perhaps, but you now are indebted to the psychopath. This will come back to haunt you.

    Giving Them What They Deserve

    Grifters are well described in the movies. Typically, they are portrayed as highly intelligent and creative individuals who target only greedy “marks” who deserve what happens to them. Their elaborate schemes make for good entertainment, almost a morality tale in which the grifter feels justified in using the mark’s larcenous nature as a lever for the swindle. The grifter may be a rogue, but a charming one who otherwise is ethical and unlikely to swindle decent people. The reality, of course, is not so benign. Many of the grifter’s victims are simply gullible, trusting, or naïve, and hardly deserve to lose their life savings to a charming rogue simply because they present weaknesses or vulnerabilities that can be exploited. Paul Newman’s character in The Sting may be likable but has few counterparts in the real world.

    What are you afraid of—intimacy, loneliness, or speaking in front of a group? All of us have fearful moments, times when we are plagued by questions and doubts. Unless these thoughts are debilitating or intrude in our day-to-day lives, they are within the range of normal. Yet our fears, once identified by the psychopath, provide clues as to how we will react in certain situations and events, and thus become potent tools for manipulation. Defense against this use of our fears is difficult, for they are the product of both nature and nurture, and therefore not easy to modify. A certified counselor or mental health professional may help us to appreciate how vulnerable we become in the face of what we fear and to adopt protective strategies.

    Excerpt from Snakes in Suits by Paul Babiak, Chapter 10 “Hot Buttons and Weak Spots. PERSONAL SELF-DEFENSE”  Get it in iTunes


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