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  • James 21:08 on January 1, 2018 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: 2018, Advance to Mayfair, , cheating, , , , , , , , , , new year, , , psychopaths, , , Sorry!, The Old Kent Road - a nice little earner   

    Just being psychopathic 

    So, New Year’s Day, 2018. I spent it in the company of my mother for the most part, playing board games. It was nice to reconnect, nice to not have anything else to do but play a few games and enjoy spending time with the woman who birthed and raised me. It’s not often that there’s literally nothing else I’d rather be doing than what I’m currently doing, or that there’s nothing else that really has to be done.

    The way my mind works, it’s goal-oriented. Win this. Get that. Do such and such. Beat him. And when I have a goal, everything I do, every bit of effort is put into achieving that goal. You could say I have a sort of tunnel vision, a razor sharp focus on the prize, outside of which nothing else matters. When I’m trying to achieve a goal is when other people are most likely to be adversely affected. This single-mindedness is what causes me to manipulate and use people like tools. You see, people who have been hurt by psychopaths get it all wrong. They take everything personally. They act like there was always a plan on the part of the psychopath to ruin their life or to make them unhappy. This is rarely the case. The psychopath was just doing what he or she needed to do to get what he or she wanted. You just got unlucky, by being in the way or by being the key to achieving his or her goal.

    Sometimes, I am accused of deliberately hurting someone or of setting out to cause them harm. This is fair enough; people are inclined to take things personally, as they love to imagine themselves as more important than they really are, being at the centre of their own universe. I don’t blame people for feeling like shit when they’ve been cheated or taken an emotional battering. It’s not a good place to be in. But it’s when they call me cruel or sadistic, they’re wrong. I’m not cruel. I’m not sadistic. I don’t wish anybody harm. On the other hand, I am single-minded. I am selfish. I am ruthless.

    But not today. Today, there was nothing to do but play games and enjoy being with my mother. I suppose that was a sort of goal, and could be reimagined as an objective: ‘spend time with Mum and enjoy self’, which would require of me such behaviour as ‘be polite’, ‘be charming’, ‘be loving’, ‘be upbeat’ (yes, that is really how I think). However, there was nothing beyond this simplistic ‘goal’, no detailed planning or second-guessing required!

    And it was enjoyable. We both had a good time. We drank cups of tea, and later glasses of beaujolais. We played ‘Monopoly’ and ‘Sorry’, and I won four out of five games. I was probably thinking more strategically than Mum, because she was just having fun with her son, while I can never really ‘switch off’ one hundred percent. I manipulated and cheated my way into winning four times, but always with a cheeky smile, playful banter and a joke to make my parent laugh. She could see what I was doing most of the time, both when I was giving ‘advice’ on what move she should take next, and when I tried to bribe her with 500 Monopoly money, but she didn’t hold it against me because she loves me, and because I was on top social form. I like that kind of interaction. Being charming and having someone hang on to your every word – it’s a good feeling, even when it’s with someone who is pretty much biologically-programmed to love you.

    Still, the way I look at it is although my Mum can’t help but love me, the fact that she also likes me must count for something, and says something about our relationship.

    New Year’s Day 2018 – it was simple, but fulfilling.

     
    • nowve666 09:22 on January 2, 2018 Permalink | Reply

      How does someone bribe another player in Monopoly? Give her the $500 to let you go twice? Have her buy a property she wasn’t going to buy? Fun game.

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    • Amaterasu Solar 11:39 on January 7, 2018 Permalink | Reply

      James, You fascinate Me, and I do like You. Thanks for sharing this! I will surely not be trusting You, but I can grasp why Your mom likes You.

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  • James 08:00 on December 1, 2017 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , , psychopaths, psychopaths in song, , reader participation, , , spotify,   

    Songs about psychopaths – Spotify playlist now available! 

    Howdy, gentle readers. 
    Terrifying, dead shark eyes: Check. - THE COVER OF SWIFT'S "BAD BLOOD" SINGLE

    “Love’s a game. Want to play?”

    Long time followers of this blog may remember a post from 2015, Psychopaths in Song. It lists an ever-growing number of songs that I (and plenty of other readers) have discovered seem to be about psychopaths.  This is not, and has never been a list of my favourite songs, nor of those that others like. But there are a hell of a lot of great songs from From Frank Sinatra’s smoothly crooned promises, to Taylor Swift’s cycle of destructive relationships, each track has been picked for its illumination of one or more of the aspects of the psychopathic condition.
    Now, our humble list has been turned into a Spotify playlist! It has over 140 songs spanning practically every genre and era of the past sixty plus years of popular music, so give it a listen here.
    My thanks go to the many people who have contributed song ideas since the post was first published. The continued interest in the article means a lot to me. Of course, if there are any songs you know that really should be on the list but have been missed, do get in touch.
     
    • nowve666 10:22 on December 1, 2017 Permalink | Reply

      The wide range and diversity of these songs suggests that the great Dionysus needs psychopathy to be properly creative. What would people sing about if not for that?

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      • James 18:00 on December 1, 2017 Permalink | Reply

        I’m just intrigued. What has Dionysus got to do with this?

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        • nowve666 19:40 on December 1, 2017 Permalink | Reply

          Dionysus is the god of music. Ever read Nietsche’s The Birth of Tragedy?

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          • James 07:49 on December 2, 2017 Permalink | Reply

            That was supposed to be a reply to you.

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    • James 07:48 on December 2, 2017 Permalink | Reply

      Right. I knew he was the god of wine, but I guess he wouldn’t be much of a god if he couldn’t multitask. I haven’t read any Nietzsche in full.

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  • James 19:42 on September 9, 2017 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , chips and gravy, Ecky thump, motto, , , psychopaths, , Put t'wood in t'oil!, , , , We're right you're wrong - Yorkshire Yorkshire Yorkshire, Yorkshire   

    A motto for psychopaths? 

    Ey up, me duck. ‘Ow do?

    Image result for whitby dracula

    I spend part of my time living in Yorkshire, the largest county in England. Which is to say, it’s not very large, because England isn’t very large; but it’s still bigger than all the other counties. Yorkshire is the stereotypical ‘North’, home of grim industrial towns, bleak and desolate moors, green sheep-peppered dales, and flat cap-wearing locals with a love of whippets and clog dancing. Yorkshire has given the world stainless steel, Wensleydale cheese, annoying yappy dogs, club football (proper football, not that hand-egg nancy sport played by the Yanks), rugby league, ferret legging (look it up), Yorkshire pudding, white roses, Robin Hood, all three Brontë sisters and Sean Bean. That accent all the miserable northern bastards in Game of Thrones use? That there’s a Yorkshire accent. The eerie town Count Dracula first makes landfall in Britain at? Whitby, in fucking Yorkshire. Naturally.

    Basically, the world owes an enormous debt to Yorkshiremen, and don’t they know it! The tongue in cheek motto for all Yorkshire folk between the Pennines and the sea, from Sheffield all the way up to Staithes is:

    Image result for wallace and gromit wensleydale

    ‘Ear all, see all, say nowt;
    Eyt all, sup all, pay nowt;
    And if ivver tha does owt fer nowt –
    Allus do it fer thissen.

    For those of you who don’t speak ‘God’s Own Tongue’, the English translation:

    Hear everything, see everything, say nothing;
    Eat everything, drink everything, pay nothing;
    And if you ever do anything – always do it for yourself.

    Now, I don’t know about you, but that to me sounds like a pretty great philosophy to live by. It boils down to take as much as you can without giving in return. Travel the world, and sample as many of its experiences as possible, but don’t sweat the small stuff and get bogged down in pleasing other people. Live for yourself, because nobody else matters. And on the odd occasions when prudence demands you give a little back – to save face, to flatter, to make sure everybody else keeps dancing your tune, then do so without taking your eyes off the ball. Do it for yourself.

    So the humble Yorkshire tyke is really just advocating a form of philosophical psychopathy.

    Flippin’ ‘Eck!

     

     
    • nowve666 20:39 on September 9, 2017 Permalink | Reply

      Dracula and the three Brontë sisters? Sounds like a cool place.

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    • nowve666 22:10 on September 9, 2017 Permalink | Reply

      Psychopathy means never having to say you’re sorry. Like love.

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      • James 06:15 on September 10, 2017 Permalink | Reply

        I disagree. Sometimes we all have to say sorry, whether lovers, psychopaths or anybody else. But it’s just a word; it doesn’t cost anything and can have big pay-offs.

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    • Amaterasu Solar 12:20 on September 10, 2017 Permalink | Reply

      Ah, the philosophy of psychopaths. Well, I do everything for Self-satisfaction. That caring for Others is what gives Me Self-satisfaction is what divides Me (and most of Humanity) from the psychopaths. I care very deeply for Others, but try very hard not to be taken advantage of by psychopaths because of that. Mostly I succeed. [smile]

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      • James 13:22 on September 10, 2017 Permalink | Reply

        Indeed, you (and the Humanity you presume to speak for) are living proof that there is no such thing as altruism. If helping others gave you no satisfaction, you would not do it.

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        • Amaterasu Solar 13:50 on September 10, 2017 Permalink | Reply

          LOL! I only “presume” based on the fact that primary psychopathy is about 1% of Humans, and secondary psychopathy 5-9%. The rest of Us are not psychopaths and DO gain satisfaction from caring for Others. But You are indeed correct. I too have argued that “altruism” does not exist. Everything We choose to do is Self-motivated, and if most of Us could not gain that Self-satisfaction from caring, society would not function. [smile]

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    • Mark Hodgson 03:27 on October 8, 2017 Permalink | Reply

      Nice post…

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